I have spent years working in a brothel. I have met all kinds of clients. Some have simple preferences. Others have very specific interests. One of the most common interests I see is a focus on feet. And every time the topic comes up in casual conversation outside work, people react the same way. They […]

Television recently gave the world a drama about a law student turned sex worker that made the term Girlfriend Experience, or GFE, famous. The problem is that the character on screen delivered the opposite of a true GFE. She was distant, transactional and completely self-involved. This fictional version has misled many people about what actually […]

I work at a busy brothel, and I see the same mistake over and over. Guests show up tired, irritable, and struggling to perform. They think they need pills or special tricks. But most of the time, they just need water. Plain, cheap, simple water. It sounds too easy, but after years of watching people […]

If you watched that Starz drama from a few years back, you might think a girlfriend experience is all about being cold, detached, and only showing interest when you need something from a client. The main character, Christine, who goes by Chelsea when she works, is smart and stylish. But she is not someone you […]

You have thought about it. Maybe more than you would admit out loud. The idea of being with two women at the same time has a way of sticking in your mind once it gets in there. The surveys back this up. Most men want to try a threesome at some point. But here is […]

I have worked in a legal brothel for almost two years now. Before I started this job, I studied how language works. I never thought those two parts of my life would connect so closely. But every day I see how the words people use change how they treat me and how I feel about […]

Yellow fever and cartoon fantasies If you work in an asian brothel long enough, you meet a certain type of client. He has what his mates call yellow fever. He has decided that Asian women are his type,g and he carries ready-madede list in his head about what we are like. In his story, the […]

Why do people visit a sex worker What is the role of a sex worker in a world where clients come with such a wide range of stories, needs and bodiesOnce you look beyond your own reasons for sex and intimacy, the picture becomes much larger. Many people visit a sex worker for reasons that […]

We have all heard the terms. Slut, player, degenerate. These words get thrown around, often aimed at those with more active or open sexual lives. A young woman once wrote to an advice columnist with a very specific worry. After a breakup, she had her first casual encounter. Raised in a strict household, she was […]

The question of where people have had sex always brings out wild answers. From haunted houses to Ferris wheel cabins, it seems every corner of Earth has been conquered. But what about beyond our planet? The idea of sex in space is a fantasy that has fueled movies and the dreams of adventurous couples. Yet […]